You’ve become so accustomed to survival mode.
Let’s see what it feels like to truly live.
You might have grown up in a home where:
Your emotional needs were invisible or treated as burdensome
You had to manage your parents' emotions instead of them supporting yours
Love felt conditional on performance, compliance, or being good
You were safe physically, but felt alone emotionally
Your parents were unpredictable; you never knew which version of them you'd get
Things looked fine from the outside. But you survived by adapting, performing, disappearing.
Many people are aware of this stuff, but are unable to make meaningful changes, and here you stay stuck.
Change happens when we work with your whole system, your body, your protective parts, your deeply held beliefs, not just your thinking mind.
I became a therapist because I know that healing from adversity and trauma is possible. Not just understanding or managing it, but actually transforming how you show up in your life, free from it.
I've seen it happen over and over again: people who thought they were broken discover they were just deeply stuck in patterns that were once essential, but have now become depleting.
Specialising In Developmental Trauma & Childhood Emotional Neglect
I'm an ACA-registered counsellor with specialised training in Internal Family Systems, Somatic Psychotherapy, Psychodynamic therapy, Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Meditation.
I work predominantly with adults aged 18–40 who have had their inner world consistently overlooked, dismissed, or denied. This is called emotional neglect. This population is routinely misunderstood and misidentified in general therapy. Most therapists will see your anxiety, your depression, and your relationship difficulties and treat those as the problem. I focus on the thing underneath that's driving all of them, working with the underlying relational and developmental injury that's producing them.
I use Internal Family Systems to work directly with the parts of you that carry shame, that perform, that shut down, that cope.
I use Somatic approaches because emotional neglect is not a mindset problem. It lives in your unconscious and deeper body.
I use Psychodynamic and attachment-informed work to make visible the relational patterns you can't see from the point of being stuck inside them, this is imperative to stop unconsciously recreating the dynamics you grew up in and start making choices from awareness rather than familiarity.
All of this must happen inside a therapeutic relationship that is itself the intervention. The research is clear on: for people who grew up feeling alone, ignored, and emotionally neglected, the single most powerful mechanism of change is the sustained experience of being in the presence of someone who is genuinely attuned to you, tracking your experience in real time with precision and care.
The struggle emotional neglect leaves us with, is not a mindset problem.
It lives in your all of your relationships, including how you relate to yourself.
“I spent 10 months with Tailah learning how to really feel safe in my body and overcome old, lifelong patterns. The experiences had during our sessions was pretty profound, very different to other therapists I’ve tried. These days I can have a conflict with my partner without shutting down, I can make better decisions, I know how to care for myself and all of my quirks, best of all, I feel like myself. Thank you Tailah."
— Anitha K.
Hi, I’m Tailah
Most kids wanted to be astronauts, I wanted to be a therapist. Since I was 8 years old I distinctly remember watching my parents and knowing there was something that could be done to change the way things were.. I obviously didn't have the language for it then, but I understood that people get stuck in patterns that hurt their potential and well-being (even if those patterns are completely unintentional and unconscious) , and that with the right support, those patterns could shift.
My childhood insight became my life's work.
Developing within a traumatic environment, whether that be acute or abstruse trauma, is complex, so treatment must be multifaceted. This is why I’ve trained in many world-class modalities for psychological healing, such as IFS, Somatic Psychotherapy, and Therapeutic mindfulness.
How We Work Together
Step 1: Consult & Fit Call (Free, 15 minutes)
The goal is share what you’re experiencing and to qualify if this work is fit for you. If we're aligned, we book your first session. This is an essential part of beginning therapy with me, no matter if its group or 1:1.
Step 2: First Session
We’ll explore your experience in depth, your patterns, the stuck points, what you've tried. We’ll begin to understand your unconscious belief structures, how emotional neglect disrupted specific developmental processes, what protective patterns formed in response, and you’ll experience in real time why insight alone isn’t enough.
You'll leave with:
The mechanism behind your struggles
Why your nervous system responds the way it does
Clarity on whats emotionally missing from your body and how to connect to that
What we need to repeat to create real change (not just what needs to be understood)
First sessions are booked after your consult call.
Step 3: Ongoing Sessions
This is where things that haven't budged despite years of trying have the opportunity to change.
You discover what you actually want, not what you should want.
You catch yourself before completely shutting down.
The unhelpful inner voice starts to quiet.
You learn to identify and navigate feelings instead of overwhelm and spirals.
We work with the shame you've been carrying and grief that has been easier to avoid.
Your nervous system learns that connection is safe.
You reconnect your sense of self-security and learn to love your unique authenticity.
Practical Information
Timeline and Cost: Sessions are $190. Most people work with me for 12-18 months, some less and some more. We start weekly and adjust frequency as you progress. Recommended cadence is Weekly > Fortnightly > Monthly.
Format:All sessions via secure video (tele-health). Work with me from anywhere in the world.
Primary Modalities: IFS for how you see yourself. Somatic therapy for neurobiology retraining (working with the nervous system). Relational healing through the space itself. Psychodynamics for understanding your unconscious landscape.
Scheduling: Book directly through my online calendar. Monday-Friday, Saturday by arrangement.
Payment: Required before each session via invoice. Payment plans available, please email me to arrange. 12 hours notice required to reschedule otherwise full fee applies.
Between sessions: Email support for check-ins or urgent questions (not ongoing therapy, but I'm accessible).
You survived your childhood.
Now let’s learn to live.
Want your desired outcomes at a fraction of the price?
I’m now offering group therapy, both virtually and in Melbourne for those who relate to having to figure too much out on your own. If this is you, group therapy is one of the fastest, powerful (and affordable!) ways to overcome the symptoms of emotional neglect as the group inherently addresses the root cause of the wound.
If you're interested in joining our virtual or in-person group
