You survived your childhood, but you still live in survival mode.
You’re highly self-aware. But you still wake up anxious. You still shut down in conflict. You still feel immense amounts of fear, mistrust, self-criticism, frustration, and sometimes blatant shame. Despite your desire and effort, things aren’t shifting
Traditional talk therapy teaches us to understand our patterns, which is important, but not transformative.
Because the systems you built from childhood experiences aren't stored in your mind. They're stored below your consciousness, encoded in your nervous system, dispersed throughout your body, and flash in your automatic responses.
They're in the way you respond to conflict, the disconnection between you and your intuitions and feelings, the way you can't relax socially, and the way you feel different from everybody else.
You can intellectually know these things are happening, but they will continue to happen.
Hi, I’m Tailah
Most kids wanted to be astronauts, I wanted to be a therapist. Since I was 8 years old I distinctly remember watching my parents and knowing there was something that could be done to change the way things were.. I obviously didn't have the language for it then, but I understood that people get stuck in patterns that hurt their potential and well-being (even if the patterns are unconscious and unintentional) , and that with the right support, those patterns could shift.
My childhood insight became my life's work.
I'm an ACA-registered counsellor with specialised training in Internal Family Systems, Somatic Psychotherapy, Psychodynamic therapy, Acceptance and Commitment therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Meditation.
I’ve trained the best varying modalities because childhood trauma is complex, healing needs to be multifaceted.
I draw from the approach that serves you and what you're working through in that moment.
I work exclusively with adults who experienced childhood trauma, whether that was overt abuse, neglect, or the more subtle emotional abandonment that leaves you feeling like something's fundamentally wrong with you.
“I spent 10 months with Tailah learning how to connect and feel safe in my body. These days I can have a conflict with my partner without shutting down for days, I can make decisions with conviction, I know how to care for myself and all of my quirks and best of all, I feel like I am myself."
— Anitha K.
You might have grown up in a home where:
~ Your emotional needs were invisible or treated as burdensome
~ You had to manage your parents' emotions instead of them supporting yours
~ Love felt conditional on performance, compliance, or being good
~ You were safe physically, but felt utterly alone emotionally
~ Your parents were unpredictable; you never knew which version of them you'd get
~ Things looked fine from the outside. But you survived by adapting, performing, disappearing.
8-year-old me was right..
there is something that can be done
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there is something that can be done ˚꩜｡
Change doesn't happen through understanding alone. You can analyse your psychology perfectly and have zero changes.
Real change happens when we work with your whole system, your body, your protective parts, your deeply held beliefs, not just your thoughts about what happened.
I became a therapist because I know that healing from adversity and trauma is possible. Not just managing it, nor just understanding it, but actually transforming how it all lives in your body and how you show up in your life.
And after years of doing this work, I've seen it happen over and over again: people who thought they were broken discover they were just stuck in patterns that once made perfect sense but are now spiritually, emotionally, and mentally depleting.
My approach draws primarily from three world-class modalities for psychological, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
Somatic Therapy
Your body tells the story of what your mind cannot articulate. During our sessions, you will notice me paying close attention to subtle shifts in your body language, a change in breath, posture or momentary facial expression.
These physical expressions provide direct insight into how past experiences are currently 'held' in your nervous system. Most importantly, these insights reveal exactly what corrective experiences are needed to update and change your system.
IFS
In Internal family Systems (IFS) or sometimes known as ‘parts work’, we look at your symptoms not as problems, but as protectors. The sudden shut down or the loud inner critic.. is actually a part of you that stepped in during your childhood to keep protect you from something.
Using parts work, we work on these aspects of the personality to help there be a felt sense of enough safety, that these protector parts can stop working so hard. This allows your core Self to take the lead, bringing a sense of internal peace you may not have felt since before trauma occurred.
Depth Psychology
Depth Psychology is the study of the Unseen Architecture of our life. It operates on the principle that your conscious mind is only the tip of the iceberg; the vast majority of your choices, reactions, and beliefs are driven by the "imprints" and "unconscious rules" formed in your early years.
Most people struggle with achieving goals, not because they lack willpower, but because their unconscious mind has commitments that are in direct conflict with the conscious goals. Depth Psychology bridges this gap and allows the barriers between where you are and what you desire to dissolve.
Specialising In Childhood Emotional Neglect
I work predominantly with adults aged 18–40 who grew up in homes where nothing was strikingly wrong, but where their emotional world was consistently overlooked. This is called childhood emotional neglect. This is a population that is routinely misunderstood and misidentified in general therapy. Most therapists will see your anxiety, your depression, and your relationship difficulties and treat those as the problem. I focus on the thing underneath that's driving all of them, working with the underlying relational and developmental injury that's producing them.
I use Internal Family Systems to work directly with the parts of you that carry shame, that perform, that shut down, that cope.
I use somatic approaches because emotional neglect does not leave a mindset problem. It lives in your unconscious and deeper body.
I use psychodynamic and attachment-informed work to make visible the relational patterns you can't see from inside them, so you stop unconsciously recreating the dynamics you grew up in and start making choices from awareness rather than familiarity.
All of this must happen inside a therapeutic relationship that is itself the intervention. The research is clear on: for people who grew up feeling alone, ignored, and emotionally neglected, the single most powerful mechanism of change is the sustained experience of being in the presence of someone who is genuinely attuned to you, tracking your experience in real time with precision and care.
NOT JUST RELIEF,
REVIVAL.
WORKING TOGETHER
Your First Session ($190, 60 minutes)
We'll explore the patterns you're noticing in your life and understand what brought you here.
You'll leave the first session with:
Clarity on your next steps
Greater understanding of how your inner world works including the foundational beliefs formed in childhood
Individualised take-home tools that you start implementing immediately in your daily life
Ongoing Sessions ($190, 60 minutes)
This is where we stop talking about your patterns and start changing how they live in your body and show up in your life.
Most clients come weekly for 2-3 months, then fortnightly, then monthly. My average client journey is around 12 months. Some longer, some shorter.
In ongoing sessions, we:
Work on the nervous system and unconscious beliefs that create your current experience
Work directly with the parts of yourself you've been trying to reject.
Work in the body through somatic therapies
Equip you to respectfully and supportively respond to your body's signals outside of therapy
Private Health Insurance: Some private health funds provide rebates for counselling services. Check with your provider if you have extras cover, many clients claim up to $80 per session. Please note Medicare rebates do not cover counselling in Australia.
Payment: Payment is required prior to session commencing and is processed via invoice. Payments can be broken up if required. This can be arranged by contacting Tailah.
Cancellation Policy: 12 hours notice required for cancellations or reschedules, otherwise the full session fee applies.
Format: All sessions are conducted via secure telehealth (video). This allows you to access trauma therapy from anywhere in Australia, in the comfort of your own space.
Scheduling: Book directly through my online calendar. I offer appointments Monday to Friday.
Between Sessions: You'll have email support for check-ins or questions. This isn't ongoing therapy via email, but I'm accessible if something urgent comes up.
Questions before booking? Send me a message and I'll get back to you as soon as possible.
When Michelangelo was asked how he carved the masterpiece of his David statue, he answered:
“I remove everything that is NOT David.”
MEET JACK
“I actually didn’t believe I'd be at the point Im at”
When Jack and I began working together, he was frustrated and beginning to lose hope in his ability to feel truly better. Jack had seen many, many therapists, but none had helped him make the changes he desired, and the cold nature of clinical work left him feeling frustrated and unseen.
Over the course of 12 months, Jack was able to reconnect to his authenticity, begin to believe in himself again, and make big, bold, nourishing choices that helped his life begin to take the shape he desired.